|My parents on their wedding day, almost 50 years ago|
The study found that people prefer to be with partners who share their social and political views, and in fact, similar political opinions took precedence over personality or looks. Only one thing scored higher than political views: the frequency of church attendance.
This does not surprise me at all. I've always found it difficult to imagine being with someone whose political, spiritual, and moral views veered dramatically from my own. So much of who we are is made visible in how we see and relate to the world and each other (made manifest in those political, spiritual, and moral views).
"...people place more emphasis on finding a mate who is a kindred spirit with regard to politics, religion ,and social activity than they do on finding someone of like physique or personality," John Alford, associate professor and the study's lead author. "It suggests that, perhaps, if you're looking for a long-term romantic relationship, skip 'What's your sign?' and go straight to 'Obama or Palin?' And if you get the wrong answer, just walk away," added Alford.
Maybe this explains the breakup between Arnold Schwarzenegger and Maria Shriver. But last I checked, Mary Matalin and James Carville are still together.